Staying Connected

Perhaps the hardest part of the empty-nest syndrome was, for me, letting go of a routine of brief, but meaningful moments with your children.  Whether it was breakfast on the run, carpooling them to school or an urgent trip to the shopping mall for clothing that they grew out of over night.  You still had a consistent connection and the ability to know what was going on in their lives.

Now, you’re lucky if you get a phone call every few days and even then it’s interrupted by another call that is more important than you.  Certainly you know they need money when they linger on the phone and ask you all about your week, your day and how you are feeling!  In either case, neither is satisfying your parental need to know and feel connected.

How do you navigate the choppy waters of a parent-child connection when they’re on their own?  I have some ideas to share on the next edition of Life After Kids on Mingle Media TV Network!


  1. Well but with all the social networking out there, it seems like you’d have many choices to keep in touch and even follow each others’ daily lives. But then this requires that both of you use social networking consistently.

  2. My kids are all in their mid- to late-twenties now, and I make a point of touching base weekly. Sometimes they initiate the call; other times I do, but no one is keeping score. If we haven’t touched base during the week, Sunday is usually my day for family phone calls.The hardest thing for me is that they are scattered around the east coast, while I’m 3000 miles away on the west coast. I don’t get to see them as frequently as I would like. So to augment the phone calls, we’ll sometimes video chat via Skype or Facetime. One of these days we’ll try a Google Huddle group video chat!In between the phone calls and video chats, we follow each other on Facebook. My daughter and my daughter-in-law are the most active, and we don’t message each other, but leave comments and “likes” to posts during the week. It’s a nice, unobtrusive way to keep up with each other. 

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