Avoiding the Plastic Surgeon’s Knife & Other Fabulous Things Empty-Nesters Do!


On today’s show, we met my friend Cheryl Hiltzik who’s an empty-nester like moi and who’s making some fabulous changes in her life now that her boys have flown her coop.

What’s more is that we hadn’t seen each other for almost 20 years, so we had a lot to talk about – including Cheryl’s recent transformation via a non-surgical facelift which you can watch on her “Journey to Rejeuvenation” page.  You won’t believe her amazing transformation, plus we get to hear about her life with her fabulous hubby (of 23 years!!!) now that they’re alone again and how she’s working with a non-profits to make the world a better place.

So join us today (and every Thursday) for Life After Kids on MingleMedia.TV 8pm Eastern/5 pm Pacific time and if you get a FREE Stickam account  you can chat with us LIVE and ask a ton of questions!

If you weren’t able to see the show you can watch (in two parts) below:


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Special Replay: Life After Kids From Pourtal Wine Bar 5/8/11

Due to technical difficulties and illness I have not been able to do my show live. Instead, enjoy another viewing of my birthday show from one of my absolute favorite places to sip some vino, Pourtal Wine Bar in Santa Monica, with my special guest, beauty and lifestyle guru, Michael Maron – who just launched his new website and blog: Michael Maron Beauty!

Pourtal Wine Bar, Santa MonicaThanks again to Pourtal’s owner, Steven Abronson for his generous hospitality and for making my birthday and broadcast very special for me, my guests and my audience. If you’re in the Los Angeles area, why not stop by Pourtal – it’s amazing location – one block for the beach and its unique wines make it a must visit…and don’t forget to tell Steve I sent you!

I promise to be back next week with a very special guest, Linda Rheinstein, Founder of iDoggieBag.org. Wait until you hear about her fight to save lives one “doggie bag” at a time…which also includes her fight against cancer!

 

Life After Kids TV Show is Back!

Life After Kids You’re cordially invited to join me for Season 2 of  my show “Life After Kids” or what I affectionately call it: The Adventures of Mid-life Empty-Nester – Now at its NEW DAY & TIME-Tonight, Thursdays February 3rd at 8pm Eastern/5pm Pacific on Mingle Media TV.

Having kids is not a requirement to check in on a hour of conversation about life, love, fashion, travel and wine! At this stage of life, we’ve all are living life after something-divorce, death, downsizing or…? Let’s share some time to chat, share our stories  and to be inspired to “follow your bliss” and make the second act the best one ever!

To chat with me and my guests, please get a FREE Stickam account before the show and please tell your family and friends!  BTW, I would really grateful if you took a moment to become a fan on my Facebook page!

Thank you for your continued support and I hope to see you all tonight!

Blog World Expo Day One

Started the day with a cuppa joe and a livestream with Desiree Peeples aka @MommyReporter for her show on MingleMediaTV - Blog Builders!

Emptying The Nest or the Re-Organization of Marla

Marla's Messy OfficeSomehow I got my dates mixed up, and thought Mercury was going into retrograde today, though I should have known my bestie, Zoe Moon, and THE best astrologer I have ever met EVER, would have sent up the smoke signals to let me know.  So, working on that assumption, I decided to re-organize my office which has been in a total state of disarray since it was primarily being used to house my foster pups and boxes of papers, files, books, magazines, old batteries, power cords, cell phones – all waiting to be recycled, photographs waiting to be put in albums, business cards waiting to be scanned in, and office supplies I keep buying because I can’t find the ones I bought the last time I couldn’t find them.

Okay, I admit, I have a problem with throwing things out – probably because my dad was a depression baby and he saved everything for a rainy day – I learned to hang on to every thing cause you never know when I am going to need that little piece from the thing-a-ma-whatcha that I can’t find now, but I will some day.

I hate living like this, but I do and I don’t do anything about it until Mercury is in Retrograde, when I would then tear apart my drawers, my office, my garage and make some headway….but there was always that few boxes of stuff that I could never part with that has gone from move to move to move to room to garage to closet.  You get the picture.  I am not a hoarder by any means, but I just feel comfort knowing I have my stuff there for a rainy day. In fairness to myself, my back injury did not allow for any physical activity and I was able to hire a local handyman to handle some things for a while, but he can’t got through boxes and files, and I wasn’t able bodied enough to do it.

But my back isn’t getting better, but it’s not getting worse and the time has come to really empty out my nest, and let go of whatever it is that I am holding onto…to clean out my closets, garage, files and life of those things that I really don’t need anymore….

What don’t you need anymore and how are you going to handle it ???

Let’s talk about this tonight at 9pm ET/6pm PT on LifeAfterKidsTV!

Our Year Of Bliss-Starts Now!

Life After Kids Bliss ListRob Reiner’s 2007 film, “Bucket List” is about the unlikely friendship between two men of different walks of life who meet while hospitalized suffering from terminal cancer. The plot, while somewhat predictable, captured the hearts of many (myself included) as these two journey to complete their bucket list. It also didn’t hurt that the roles were played by two of the greatest actors of our time, Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman, Jr. who start with the more juvenile pursuits of  skydiving and racing fast cars but who end up finding out what is most important to each – the things that money cannot buy – the bonds of friendship and the infinite worth of familial love. I admit I cried at the end of the film and I do each time it’s repeated on cable, which has been often lately.  And, the ultimate of message of the film, is summed up in one of my favorite quotes from Les Brown, “Life’s too short, eat the dessert first.” So the film’s “bucket list” has now become part of our popular culture and has prompted many of us mid-lifers to begin thinking about what it means to be facing the second half of our lives and how we intend to spend our time.

My mother passed away when she was only forty-six years old, and when I reached that age, her death hit me so much harder than it did when it happened over twenty plus years ago. She was beautiful, full of life and way too young to die. I realized then how “young” she really was and what she didn’t get to do with the years she didn’t have. I believe that much of my spirit and drive in my life comes from that deep seated knowledge of how fragile and fleeting life really is. The past two years of my life have been fraught with great challenges and transitions but recently I’ve been overcome by the feeling something huge is around the corner and it has to do with “following my bliss.” Or, maybe my mom’s up there behind the steering wheel?

How do you follow your bliss? Frankly, I find the term “bucket list” – probably derived from the slang expression to kick the bucket – isn’t as elegant or inspiring. So make a BLISS LIST! I challenge you to find just twelve things you’ve never done before and always wanted to do and do at least one of those things every month for the next year. It could be as simple as reading the long novel you’ve always wanted to get to, but didn’t, learning a new skill or taking a class, to visiting relatives or taking a trip to some faraway and exotic place.

The choices are endless and the choices are yours. The most important thing is to start your list, as many life-coaches say, once you commit your intentions to writing you can make anything you want happen. So you’re already logged on if you are reading this or if you prefer to start with a pen and paper and just do it!Need help? Support? Ideas? My MingleMediaTV Network “sisters” Gabbin’ Gal Nan & Gabbin’ Gal Erin (on MMTV Thursdays at 10 pm ET/7 pm PT) have decided to join me on this journey and we three have committed to support each other and all of our loyal fans and Mingle Media TV audience.

So I’ve taken the first step below, now it’s your turn.  Please post your list (even if you don’t have 12 items yet), questions or need for support here and let’s us begin A Year of Bliss!

Following Your Bliss

Follow Your BlissJoseph Campbell’s famous phrase “follow your bliss” has become my personal mantra to remind me that I want to live a life of self-fulfillment and joy.

Do you follow your bliss? With all the extra time on you have now that you don’t have soccer games or homework help duty or extra clothes to wash, there is no excuse not to spend that time on yourself doing something positive and life-affirming.

Many years ago, I learned how to country-western dance and I went from having two-left feet to competing in amateur contests. For several years, it was one of the most “blissful” times of my life, but unfortunately cut short by the disappearance of places to dance, a new job and in the past few year, a very bad back.

Since then I have found other ways to spend my free time and follow my bliss.  Come join me and to get up and dance like no one is watching  no matter how you choose to follow YOUR bliss! Just do it!

Don’t you want to re-ignite your passion for living? It’s really easy and and it doesn’t have to cost a lot of money.  Instead of a bucket list, which conjurs up negative images,  I’ve decided to call it my “bliss list” – things I want to do while I am still healthy and able!

So why not start a list and share it with all of us!

Mid-Life Crisis or Just Plain Crazy!

Are you going through a Mid-Life Crisis or are life’s circumstances just making you go crazy or do you just want to cut loose from those ties that bind and get a little bit crazy (thanks to Seal for the proper prose)?

Whether you’re a women going through menopause with  hormonal shifts making you crazy or a man trying to deal with his own feelings of lost youth, this syndrome has been the topic medical journals  and tawdry tabloid scandals.

Do all men and women need to break free with affairs, fast cars and wild lifestyles? Or has mother-nature actually built in our need for a last hurrah?

What’s your take on mid-life crises and how did you handle your own?

Independence Day

Independence DayAs your children grew up and became more independent, did you find yourself holding on a bit tighter? And when they were finally out of the house, how did you deal with their departure, with a sense of dread or a burst of independent spirit?

In honor of July 4th, Independence Day, let’s think about how we dealt with our own independence and how it shaped our relationships with our spouses, significant others, friends or children!

Staying Connected

Perhaps the hardest part of the empty-nest syndrome was, for me, letting go of a routine of brief, but meaningful moments with your children.  Whether it was breakfast on the run, carpooling them to school or an urgent trip to the shopping mall for clothing that they grew out of over night.  You still had a consistent connection and the ability to know what was going on in their lives.

Now, you’re lucky if you get a phone call every few days and even then it’s interrupted by another call that is more important than you.  Certainly you know they need money when they linger on the phone and ask you all about your week, your day and how you are feeling!  In either case, neither is satisfying your parental need to know and feel connected.

How do you navigate the choppy waters of a parent-child connection when they’re on their own?  I have some ideas to share on the next edition of Life After Kids on Mingle Media TV Network!