Rob Reiner’s 2007 film, “Bucket List” is about the unlikely friendship between two men of different walks of life who meet while hospitalized suffering from terminal cancer. The plot, while somewhat predictable, captured the hearts of many (myself included) as these two journey to complete their bucket list. It also didn’t hurt that the roles were played by two of the greatest actors of our time, Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman, Jr. who start with the more juvenile pursuits of skydiving and racing fast cars but who end up finding out what is most important to each – the things that money cannot buy – the bonds of friendship and the infinite worth of familial love. I admit I cried at the end of the film and I do each time it’s repeated on cable, which has been often lately. And, the ultimate of message of the film, is summed up in one of my favorite quotes from Les Brown, “Life’s too short, eat the dessert first.” So the film’s “bucket list” has now become part of our popular culture and has prompted many of us mid-lifers to begin thinking about what it means to be facing the second half of our lives and how we intend to spend our time.
My mother passed away when she was only forty-six years old, and when I reached that age, her death hit me so much harder than it did when it happened over twenty plus years ago. She was beautiful, full of life and way too young to die. I realized then how “young” she really was and what she didn’t get to do with the years she didn’t have. I believe that much of my spirit and drive in my life comes from that deep seated knowledge of how fragile and fleeting life really is. The past two years of my life have been fraught with great challenges and transitions but recently I’ve been overcome by the feeling something huge is around the corner and it has to do with “following my bliss.” Or, maybe my mom’s up there behind the steering wheel?
How do you follow your bliss? Frankly, I find the term “bucket list” – probably derived from the slang expression to kick the bucket – isn’t as elegant or inspiring. So make a BLISS LIST! I challenge you to find just twelve things you’ve never done before and always wanted to do and do at least one of those things every month for the next year. It could be as simple as reading the long novel you’ve always wanted to get to, but didn’t, learning a new skill or taking a class, to visiting relatives or taking a trip to some faraway and exotic place.
The choices are endless and the choices are yours. The most important thing is to start your list, as many life-coaches say, once you commit your intentions to writing you can make anything you want happen. So you’re already logged on if you are reading this or if you prefer to start with a pen and paper and just do it!Need help? Support? Ideas? My MingleMediaTV Network “sisters” Gabbin’ Gal Nan & Gabbin’ Gal Erin (on MMTV Thursdays at 10 pm ET/7 pm PT) have decided to join me on this journey and we three have committed to support each other and all of our loyal fans and Mingle Media TV audience.
So I’ve taken the first step below, now it’s your turn. Please post your list (even if you don’t have 12 items yet), questions or need for support here and let’s us begin A Year of Bliss!